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Seven Steps of Forgiving
Excerpted from:
A Little Book of Forgiveness
Challenges & Meditations for Anyone with Something to Forgive

By D. Patrick Miller
ISBN: 0-9656809-1-6 (paper)
Publisher: Fearless Books; http://www.fearlessbooks.com
Copyright © 1994, 1999 D. Patrick Miller



Seven Steps of Forgiving

1
Select a bitter sorrow, a serious grievance against someone, or a punishing charge against yourself, and review it in complete detail.


2
Hold in your mind the image of whatever is to be forgiven yourself, another person, a past event and say, I release you from the grip of my sadness, disapproval, or condemnation. Concentrate quietly on this intention.


3
Imagine for a while what your life will be like without the sorrow or grievance that has been haunting you.


4
Make amends with someone youve hurt or someone who has hurt you; tell a friend about your self-forgiveness; or otherwise link you inner work to your relationships.


5
Ask for Gods help to overcome fear or resistance at any step. If you do not believe in God, ask for help from all nature, humanity, and the mysteries of your own mind. These are the channels through which aid is sent and aid is always sent.


6
Have patience. Forgiveness induces healing which follows its own order and timing. Whether you think you have accomplished anything thus far is less important than the fact that you have attempted a radical act calling forth change beyond your imagining. Go about your daily business, but stay alert to unexpected shifts in your thinking, feelings, and relationships.


7
Repeat steps 1 6 as often as necessary, for life.